If that’s not a mouthful of a title then I don’t know what! Looking for some ideas to stay off of Facebook and to focus more in your faith and be present with your family? Me too. Around the beginning of this year, I decided to take control of my social media consumption.
I like social media. I hate social media. I need social media. It’s sort of a love-hate relationship, right? Obviously, social media is needed to help keep this writing business afloat, but here’s the quick and dirty truth: I battle against FOMO more than I’d like to admit.
I have a thing, called “the-world-revolves-around-me-but-I-pretend-I-don’t-think-that.” Which means that I reach for my phone a lot to see what I missed, to see if anyone interacted with me on social media, and to feel that tiny, quick surge of adrenaline to see the red notifications on my screen.
To feel validated.
Between my son pulling my arm off for my attention and dry, despondent evenings with my husband, I have discovered five tips to help me tune out the noise of social media and tune into my familial surroundings.
If you can, leave your phone in the other room or keep it away from reaching distance, like at the bottom of your purse or ginormous diaper bag. I’m home with the kids, so I tend to leave mine upstairs on my night stand.
Use an app to track your activity so you can get a grasp of where you spend your time. Before I started practicing these tips, the hours shown for how much I was Facebook and Instagram was shocking to me. Like, I basically spent a day’s work on Facebook over the course of a week. It was way more than what’s pictured below.
Be intentional when on social media. Before I started practicing these tips, I would scroll through my feeds, aimlessly. I have started purposefully searching for people’s profile whom I like to interact with. It saves me from seeing Betty, whom I haven’t spoken to in years, but I continue to let her dictate my value. No thank you.
Turn off notifications for ALL THE GROUPS. I’m part of a gazillion groups, but really only love interacting with about four of them. Less notifications = less wasted time.
Double check yourself before sharing. I ask myself more times than not, “would I be enjoying this more or be even more present” if I wasn’t thinking about how to share this on social media? Like, we’re in the middle of happy birthday and I’m snapping a photo and posting it on IG before the chorus is over.
Here’s the thing: being on social media isn’t bad. After all, I’m using social media to offer you some focus. But the minute I start letting it crouch into my heart and the day-to-day, is the minute I start losing myself in a world that tugs away pieces of my heart.
So there you have it: five tips to help you drown out social media so you can focus on your faith and your family.
What would you add to our list?