Finding Gratitude in Torrential Trials

Simply Motherhood. The name of Ashley’s blog captures her writing so well. What I like about Ashley’s writing is her ability to speak simple, straightforward truths. She doesn’t sugarcoat things. She’s honest and real. She’s simply sharing her story with you because she knows that as mothers, we don’t have time for a bunch of fluff. The simple stories tend to be the most powerful, don’t you think? And while Ashley is telling you the truth, she delivers with a subtle wit that makes you feel like you two could sit down and chat over coffee, without any judgment. I don’t know about you, but I think we could all use more friends like that in our lives.

We’ve been in the thick of it lately.

Raising three small children, work, marriage, the many unexpected trials of life.

The last few months have been nothing short of difficult. With the holidays on top of us, my stress had gone to the next level.

We’ve all been there. You feel like you are just hanging on by the grip of your coffee cup for dear, dear life. Things have to look up soon…right?

When we fall into the thick of things our minds get a little cloudy. I know mine does. Everyday, I feel like I’m looking at cloudy skies waiting for another rainfall, waiting for another trial to add to our already heavy load of life.

When the rain pours, we start to feel stuck. Sometimes, we can’t see the things to be grateful for.

Things started pouring when we welcomed our baby boy who was five weeks early, followed by several doctor visits because he was losing too much weight. Our middle son was diagnosed with autism recently. We needed to find a bigger, yet affordable car. And recently I had a horrifying and terrifying afternoon with a call to the paramedics.

In the midst of this chaos, I found myself taking a step back.

I was on a slippery slope and I needed to shelter from the rain, from the downpour.

It was too much. I was so focused on all the negative going on around us; I didn’t see all the small things I could be grateful for in those moments.

I took a breath and looked at my family, at our current life and saw the bigger picture.

We welcomed a baby boy five weeks early who only spent 4 hours in the NICU. Other than his weight dropping, he was healthy.

He was alive. He was home.

Our son was diagnosed with autism, but that fact didn’t change our love for him. He is still our happy, though difficult at times, smiling boy. And now we are learning how to help him get through this crazy ride of life.

We had to find a bigger car in a rush, but now I’m sporting my mom van very proudly.

Our three kids are alive, healthy, and still driving us crazy. We have a home to call our own and we are all together.

And we can get through these hard times together.

We may be in the thick of life right now, but there are always things to be grateful for. Things to remind us that even though we are in the storm, there are rainbows if we just take a moment to look for them.

When we go through trials, we have the choice to only see the rain storms. We also have the choice to look through it and find even the smallest things to be grateful for.

In choosing to see the good in the bad, it reminds us we are strong enough to get through the storms in our lives. It reminds us that like real storms, there is always a rainbow waiting to be seen.

As long as we are willing to look for it.

“Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the Lord thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.” – Deuteronomy 31:6



Ashley writes here and there on the interwebs. She likes to connect with her readers on Facebook and Instagram. Head over there and say hello!

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