Attention Bloggers: Be Comfortable in Your Own Skin

I keep hearing a lot about how we can’t be all to everyone or we can’t be everything to all that’s out there. It seems we are always going going going and getting ourselves deeper and deeper into the busyness that is blogging. You see a lot of posts out there about “Simplifying Your Life: Use a Post Planner” or “5 ways to being more balanced in Your Writing.” I will quickly click on those posts because I, too, need to simplify and slow down, get focused and write. When you find yourself constantly clicking on these posts, you start to evaluate what you’re doing and why you have this constant feeling like you’re spinning your wheels and not ever moving. I started wondering why I get myself into that crazy mode that is the fast lane of blogging.I realized I wasn’t being honest with myself and I wasn’t being honest with my readers.

I try to do it all and have it all because at times I am not comfortable in my own skin.

I am constantly looking over my writing and my goals and where I’m going with all of it, but I get so easily wrapped up in the day-to-day demands, that I lose myself. Trying to stay up on all the social media trends, trying to find the right time to post an article on Facebook and the totally different time to try and hit the sweet spot on Twitter. Growing a readership. Making genuine connections with other writers and not just “liking” something so it will somehow serve me back. How do you keep the balance of the genuine and the reality of needing a social media base to grow your readership? A blogging friend of mine mentioned the other day about how we get so busy trying to put the daily fires out, we sometimes lose site of our long term goals. I find my constant attraction to these day-to-day fires draws me farther away from my authentic self.

No longer was I operating in my own skin, but the demands of trends or numbers. Stats or comments. I was becoming a servant to my social media.

I do this because if I was comfortable in my own skin, I wouldn’t worry about trying to get all the right #hashtags or getting in on all the blogging circle discussions and figuring out the best way to write engaging captions and posts to boost audience interactions. My own skin would stick with the genuine follows and growing my readership organically. My own skin would stick with when it works best for my family life to write and not when the stats tell me to. My own skin doesn’t like to post selfies. There I said it.

We all have our own interpretations of what it means to be comfortable in our own skin as writers. I know plenty of writers who have a system and are efficient with their time as they grow their readership. There are so many bloggers out there whose strength is connecting with their readers and building a community on their blog. These writers are passionate and comfortable with their writing processes.

I want to stay passionate and genuine to myself as a writer. I want to embrace my personality that shapes my writing. This means I’m not always going to be on the up and up with the latest social media trends. It means that I may miss out on some awesome blogging discussions. It means that I’m going to have to put my phone down for a while everyday so I can stay in the moment with my baby boy who is growing wildly fast. It means I need to set aside the evenings so I can focus on my husband and nurture our relationship.

I don’t want to be defined by my readers. I want to define my readers.

I find this to be such a hard act to balance. Clearly, writers need to be aware of their audiences and pay attention to efficient ways to interact with their readers, but when do you draw the line? How do you decide when you’ve gone too far and it’s no longer your genuine self out there but you, wearing a mask trying to be all things to everyone?

The comfortable-in-my-own-skin me would rely more on God’s direction for my writing. After all, He is the reason I started this.

Maybe you started your blog to make money by monetizing. Maybe you are working on a platform to being a freelance writer. Maybe you are writing a book and are hoping to grow an audience and use your blog to write more. We all have our reasons and we all have what makes us the writers we are.

We need to be reminded about those writing tips to boost our readership and  new ways to simplify our writing methods.

But we also need reminding to BE who we are and stay comfortable in our skin.

The result should be a simplified life.

What do you do that keeps you from drifting from your authentic self?

What reminders or tips would you give to writers to encourage them to be comfortable in their own skin? I would love to hear you thoughts in the comments below!




11 replies
  1. MamaCentric
    MamaCentric says:

    You always find me right where I am in my journey. How do you do this?? I was nodding my head in agreement to all of this, as I have been struggling with this every waking minute of this last week. This blogging business is so much trickier than I anticipated, and so much more involved. I don’t want to lose my voice or my sanity. Thank you for giving me something meaningful to think about.

    • Gloryanna
      Gloryanna says:

      I have decided that blogging is what I make it to be. I want to keep it inline with my goals and stay balanced in the rest of my life! And you are right, it IS tricky! I am so glad this is helping you reflect!

  2. Marisa Ulrich
    Marisa Ulrich says:

    This is great. Being ourselves is one of the toughest but most important things we can do for our writing. I have had a push-pull struggle with this as long as I have pursued this.Balance is hard! I would say the best thing I do is pray about my topics. Whatever He puts a fire in my belly for is what I pursue. I find it makes my work flow better and the end product feels truer to Him than to the pursuit of numbers. I can’t say I am a raving success in the world’s eyes when it comes to driving growth and interactions, but I am truly trying to surrender all that day by day and trust my words go where they are supposed to. Some days are easier than others, particularly as the book debut draws nearer and I ponder how this shy little unknown will ever sell it, but, we are all works-in-progress, aren’t we? My apologies for the novel here, but this is an area I think of a lot. God bless! 🙂

    • Gloryanna
      Gloryanna says:

      I love your reminder that it is a daily surrender. That is SO TRUE! I ask myself a lot these days if the post is a spirt-led post or a selfish post! Thanks Marisa!

  3. ohthatsmomsense
    ohthatsmomsense says:

    Great post. I totally agree with everything. Blogging is way harder than I thought it would be. Trying to do it all in order to grow my audience. It’s draining at times. There were a few times I had to stop and think first before posting something and ask myself “Is this my true authentic self? Or am I pretending to be someone I’m not? Will me readers see that?” Just recently I asked a friend of mine if she felt I was living a double life with my blog. She said in some ways yes, it seemed like it because I post more often now on my blog accounts than my personal. I currently have a blog post in the works about the subject, sitting in drafts. We all have to remember even though we have a goal when it comes to blogging whether it be to monetize or grow our followers, we have to draw the line somewhere and focus our attention to our loved ones, find a balance. 🙂

    • Gloryanna
      Gloryanna says:

      I am always asking myself if I am being authentic. I have found that the more honest I am in my writing, the greater reader response. That’s what I like the most anyways!

  4. Emily
    Emily says:

    Every blogger has different goals. Great reminder to focus on our long term goals as a blogger! It’s easy to get wrapped up in constant, little, tedious tasks that while they can be important, they CAN take valuable time away from what our goals really are.

    I don’t take selfies either. 🙂

  5. Michelle Thevenot, Blogger MT Bottles
    Michelle Thevenot, Blogger MT Bottles says:

    Thank you for this, Gloryanna! I definitely relate to your struggles of feeling the pressure to be out there in full-force promoting our blog personas. It’s overwhelming and not me either. More recently I also took a step back and shifted my mindset to “it’s my blog, my writing, and I’m not accountable to anyone but me. I write and interact as it suits me.” And guess what… I’m happier, less stressed, less distracted from what I really want to be doing. Then all of a sudden my words reflected more authenticity, I got some validation from a couple publishers, and my overall interaction on social media and blog increased… with less effort. I’d rather have quality over quantity of interactions. I keep my circles small in real life, so I’m similar to you in the blog world preferring to keep up a manageable, quality blog community. Your voice is resonating with me and likely many other bloggers. I hope the process of writing this helped define a landmark along your blogging journey.

  6. Sarah
    Sarah says:

    Great read sister! The balance is hard but when we lose our true self it reflects in our writing. Glad to have you in my tribe :)))

  7. dacounsel
    dacounsel says:

    I find myself struggling with this balance as a new blogger. I want to “take over the blogging world” be a great mom, counselor, wife, daughter. Rome wasn’t built in a day and I have to remember to keep my goals in perspective. Keeping Christ first is a great start. Great blog.


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